Day to day in my coaching business, I often find myself helping people remember just why it is they are awesome. (I know, pretty cool job hey ;-)

Sometimes people take quite a while to remember all the wonderful things about themselves. It’s not that they don’t like themselves, it’s just that the neural pathways to the ‘I’m awesome’ thought have dried up a little because they haven’t been used in a while.

Each time we have a thought, good, bad or indifferent, a very tiny electrical impulse (quite literally a spark) jumps across a synaptic gap in our brains. So if we’re constantly thinking that we have a big butt, (regardless if our bum is actually a perfect size 12, we’re talking about our thoughts only), the spark jumps across that gap all day long. Eventually, our brain figures out that it can really speed up the thought process if it makes that the only neurological option we have. So our mind begins to make that spark bigger and bigger while diminishing any other possible alternative thoughts like, “my butt looks great in these jeans” or “men like women with full figures”.

It’s not that we consciously make the choice to exclude any other thought possibilities, it’s just the way our brain works to try and help us become more effective in our thoughts. (Perhaps we do have a little design flaw after all?) This process is so effective that by the time we hit 30, our brain process has pretty much got all of our thought patterns squared away and our unconscious mind takes over around 90 per cent of our decisions.

Taking all that into consideration, how often in the last week have you said to yourself internally, “I’m a great person” or “wow, I absolutely nailed that meeting”. If these aren’t conversations you’ve having regularly with yourself there is a good chance your brain’s taken over and made these part of the ‘no-go zone’. Today I want to stimulate your thoughts again about how truly wonderful a person you are. If that sounds a little funny, stay with me, you need this and I promise it wont hurt a bit!

As a baby, you were born perfect, then life started and things got in the way. By now, I’m guessing you have a somewhat less than perfect image of yourself and, to be honest, you’re not on your own. There are very few people who can say with all honesty “I love who I am”.

In reality, you are where you are, and who you are, because so many factors have come together to shape you. Where you are is perfect, it may seem a little crazy to say so, but think about the really big challenges you’ve faced in your life. Sometimes they seemed impossible yet they have formed you into the wonderful person you are today, stronger, more compassionate, wiser and certainly more educated to the ways of the world. All up, you’ve become a better person because of all the things that have gone before.

So, why are you so wonderful? Well, here are just a few suggestions, but please keep adding to this list as I couldn’t possibly know all the great things about you.

  You’re completely unique, there is only one you, you think differently to others, you act differently to others and everything about you is wonderfully special. Remember.
  You’re generous with time, energy and the way you give others attention. You are constantly thinking about the welfare of other people, sometimes even to the detriment of yourself. Remember. 
  You’re creative, you have a flair for something that moves you, you get excited by that element, and perhaps it’s been hidden for a while and needs to be brought back into your life? Remember.
  You’re inspiring, others look at the things you do, (no, you wouldn’t have noticed) and they respect how you do them, and you inspire them to improve the way they do things in their own lives. 
Remember.
  You’re loving, you have so much love within you that people can’t help but notice how much you care and the small things you do.
Remember.
  You’re stable, friends know they can come to you for support and guidance without being judged or accused. You’re the rock in many of your relationships.
Remember.
  You’re beautiful, inside you is a wonderful person just waiting to be recognised by you. The more you notice how wonderful you are on the inside, the sooner you’ll be recognising. Remember.

I hope today we’ve made some new sparks jump across some new gaps to help you improve your life and also the way you think about yourself. You are an amazing person, you’re brilliant and special and funny and intelligent! The more wonderful things you’re able to remember about yourself the more you can be those things and improve your life.

“To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are!”

This week focus on you, your thoughts about yourself and how truly awesome you are! Enjoy.

If you’re really ready to step up and start living life and need a little assistance to get started, please give me a call on 0409 224 303 for a complimentary coaching session and we can work on it together.

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 www.advancedcoachingsolutions.com.au/Workshops.html